5/25/2009
4/22/2009
The Precious Journey of the Mother who Adopts Older Children
I wanted to post this here both for you all to read, and for my own future reference.
It seemed kind of 'best case' but it was interesting none the less.
Labels: Adoption
3/05/2009
Homestudy Visit #1
Our first homestudy visit was this past monday afternoon. It went very well. I was not nervous, although we all did quite a bit of cleaning. Thankfully Brent talked me out of rearranging the whole house. That will come later.
Mostly it was just meeting the social worker, she asked us about some of the things that were in our biographies and about our home and family. She told us a few pieces of paperwork we had to collect yet, and inspected the house.
The big thing was that I finally got NK's room fairly clean. Before it was storage and messy and cluttered. Now there is a bed, bookshelf, chair and lamp. I still want to repaint this summer, and we're buying both boys a dresser at Ikea in a couple of weeks. And it needs a little boy and all his stuff in it :)
Our next appointment is the 30th, and then we're done with that. If we file our i-800a in the next week or two, we should get that back in June. Hopefully the agency will send us the dossier requirements soon before that so we can get that all packaged and sent to Thailand ASAP.
Yay!
2/25/2009
Video
We got a video from the agency yesterday, of NK playing catch - well, trying to :) It was cute and I wish time and paperwork would move faster.
There are some concerns in his paperwork about a speech delay, and the video doesn't have him talking at all so I'm going to email the agency to see if they have any more information about his speech.
Then right after watching the video, Brent showed me a video he made for our children's pastor and the first line was about how God has not forgotten about children - and I started bawling. *sigh* it's annoying being a girl sometimes...
Labels: Adoption
2/23/2009
What I know about Thailand
Adopting from Thailand is a little different from other countries. When we go to pick up our child, he is put into our care, and will come home with us to live in our home, but he is not officially 'ours' yet.
What happens is, our child is under the umbrella custody of our agency. Our homestudy agency will do a post-placement at 2, 4, and 6 months. After Thailand has had sufficient reports that our family is doing well and our child is flourishing in our home, they will send us approval to pursue final adoption. Then we will travel to the Thai consulate in Chicago and register him and only after that will our adoption be complete. Then we can re-adopt in Wisconsin as well.
It makes me a little nervous that he's not 'ours' legally right away but I'm sure it's just a formality and it all works out.
I got my information from here, and from a friend that adopted from Thailand. If I'm wrong on anything, please let me know so I can correct this.
We're having our first homestudy a week from today, so much cleaning will be done! I don't think they're doing the home inspection, but still I want his room to look decent.
2/19/2009
Thoughts of spring
Even though the wind is blowing and the temperatures are in the single digits, I found myself obsessing about my garden this morning. We've decided to forgo the CSA this year and try gardening again and it's been rolling around in my mind for a couple of weeks now - I just haven't sat down to plan everything out. Since I also have to write something here today, I will use you all to sift through my gardening brain dump. :)
I had a garden for two years but I let it go pretty badly, and rabbits ate half my plants. But this year I am going to make a concerted effort and hopefully get Andrei in on it too. I think it's a good skill to have and we need to be outside more anyway.
I'm letting my good friend Mel also garden in my yard, since her's is not so nice or big as mine, and I think she said there was another family that was interested, but I can't remember. Anyway, the more the merrier, and the less I will have to mow :) Mel's husband is going to help us build some raised beds so we won't have to till my uneven yard, and we can get better soil then too. I'll have to see if Mel still has that square foot gardening book or if it's back at the library so I can take a look and design what I want to do.
What am I going to grow...
-Tomatoes - yes lots and lots. Cherry, roma, normal (what are they called?) We are salsa and spaghetti-haulics here and raw they're Andrei's favorite food, so we can't have enough tomatoes. I would like to get some upsidedown tomato plants but I'm not sure where I would put them - depending on how much sun they need (http://www.instructables.com/id/how-to-plant-hanging-upsidedown-tomatoes/).
- Peppers - lots of peppers in lots of colors. Yum! Makes me want fajitas for dinner! Brent also wants jalapenos so he can make salsa so I'm thinking 3 jala plants and 5 multi colored peppers. Maybe more.
- Pumpkin - at least one plant - maybe two - they take up a lot of room though.
- Carrots - 3 or 4? I use them a lot in cooking only because we got a lot from our CSA - and Andrei eats them too. I rarely buy them otherwise. These got demolished by the rabbits overnight the last time i planted though.
- Yellow squash - only one of these. I like them, but not that much.
- Broccoli - maybe 3? These also are rabbit-attractors
- Garlic and onions - I think I would have had to do these in the fall, so I guess they'll have to wait until next year. Oooh, maybe I'll look into leeks and green onions in the meantime
- Basil - Pesto is my very most favorite food in the world, but my attempts last time were pitiful. Hopefully I'll do better this year.
- Lettuce - 2-3 plants? The first fresh picked salad = beginning of summer for me :)
- Spinach/kale/green-something I'd like to cook with these more or make green smoothies so I have to figure out what would grow best around here.
Oh my - this list is pretty intense for someone who is not a huge gardener.
Other than what's above, I think I may let Andrei have his own little plot with cucumbers and some thing else he'd like. Maybe I'll put a couple experimental plants in there too. Hmm I have been looking at the list here - http://sharonastyk.com/2009/02/10/20-plants-you-should-consider-growing/ but they all seem to hard right now (not that my previous list looks easy). Maybe I'll venture out and pick one and try it. Maybe hazlenuts or sweet potatoes. I don't know yet.
Also, I plan to can this fall even though I abhor it. :( But I'm going to make myself learn and do it. I think mostly I hate it because I hate prepping the tomaotes and all I've ever canned was marinara sauce and salsa. Maybe if I make non-tomato things it won't be so bad. But that's a post for another day.
We already have black raspberries which are awesome and strawberries which didn't do squat last year, and that's probably because I didn't do squat to take care of them. Hopefully this year will be better.
Oy, I think I have pretty high expectations of myself...


